Your spouse knows about your affair, and things will never be the same.
While it was happening you found ways to justify or compartmentalize it. Then your spouse found out, and reality crashed into you.
You don't know if your relationship can come back from this. When you see the anger and disgust on your spouse's face, you panic. You're terrified they'll ask for a divorce. You two keep having the same conversation over and over. They want all the details, and you don't know what to say. Whenever you open your mouth, it just makes things worse.
Every morning you wake up with a pit in your stomach, wishing it was all a dream. You can barely get out of bed. You wonder if you're a horrible person, a narcissist. You don't know who you are anymore. You're asking yourself, "How could I have let my life get to this point?"
You want to fix your marriage. You can't keep living like this. You're ready to make a change.
Maybe you want to:
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stop freezing and answer your spouse's questions honestly
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be there for them and stay calm when they’re upset
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end the urges to text your affair partner
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stop feeling so ashamed, guilty, and depressed
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rebuild trust with your spouse and have fun together again
You don’t know if your marriage will recover, but you’re determined to try.
You're in the right place.
HI, I’M AMY.
I'm not here to judge or shame you for your affair. I'm here to help you understand what happened and be able to offer your spouse the answers and support they need.
Therapy with me goes beyond just talking. I draw on Internal Family Systems (IFS) and attachment-based therapy to help you feel grounded during difficult conversations with your spouse, take responsibility without getting overwhelmed by shame, and make sure you don't have another affair in the future. This work isn't easy, but it brings real, lasting change.
Specialties:
Infidelity
Relationship Issues
Trauma
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
How it works:
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Reach Out
Schedule your free 20 minute video appointment. We’ll discuss what’s bringing you to therapy and I’ll answer any questions you have about working together. If you feel like we’re the right fit, we’ll schedule our first session.
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First session
In our intake session, you'll be able to share more in depth about what you're experiencing and your therapeutic goals. I'll share my ideas on how we can work together towards your goals.
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Feel the Difference
In weekly sessions, we’ll explore the context of your affair and build the skills to ensure you don't make the same mistake twice. As our work deepens, you'll be able to explain the affair to your partner and finally start to forgive yourself.