Your spouse knows about your affair, and things will never be the same.
While it was happening you found ways to justify or compartmentalize it. Then your spouse found out, and reality crashed into you. Now you keep having the same conversation over and over. Your spouse wants to know why and you don't know what to say. When you see the anger and disgust on their face, you panic. You don't know if your relationship can come back from this.
Every morning you wake up with a pit in your stomach, wishing it was all a dream. You don't know who you are anymore. You worry you're a terrible person or a narcissist. You can barely get out of bed. You're wondering, "How could I have let my life get to this point?"
You don’t want to get divorced. You want to fix your marriage. You're ready to make a change.
Maybe you want to:
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stop freezing and answer your spouse's questions honestly
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be there for them and stay calm when they’re upset
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stop feeling urges to text your affair partner
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rebuild trust and have fun together again
You don’t know if your marriage will recover, but you’re determined to try.
Your story matters.
HI, I’M AMY.
I'm not here to judge or shame you for your affair. I believe there are reasons why you did what you did. If you don’t fully understand them yet, that’s okay. It’s part of what we’ll work on together.
Therapy with me goes beyond just talking. I draw on Internal Family Systems (IFS) and attachment-based therapy to help you feel grounded during difficult conversations with your spouse, take responsibility without getting overwhelmed by shame, and make sure you don't have another affair in the future. This work isn't easy, but it brings real, lasting change.
Specialties:
Infidelity
Relationship Trauma
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
How it works:
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Reach Out
Schedule your free 20 minute video appointment. We’ll discuss what’s bringing you to therapy and I’ll answer any questions you have about working together. If you feel like we’re the right fit, we’ll schedule our first session.
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First session
In our intake session, you'll be able to share more in depth about what you're experiencing and your therapeutic goals. I'll share my ideas on how we can work together towards your goals.
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Feel the Difference
In weekly sessions, we’ll explore the context of your affair and build the skills to ensure you don't make the same mistake twice. As our work deepens, you'll be able to explain the affair to your partner and finally start to forgive yourself.