You take care of others.
Who takes care of you?
You care about others so much you made a career out of it.
Now, between work, friends, and family, you have so many plates spinning that your own self care feels like a fantasy. Maybe you can’t remember the last time you went to the grocery store or cooked yourself a decent meal. When you finally do get a break, it doesn’t feel restorative. You envy people who seem relaxed and joyful, and you wonder, “Why can’t I have that?”
During the day you run on stress and adrenaline, pushing through everything that needs to get done. By the time your notes are finished or the kids are in bed, you’re exhausted. The best you can do is binge watch Netflix and try to sleep. This isn’t what you thought life would be.
Imagine a life where you can take care of others and yourself.
When your body screams “no,” you listen. You set limits with kindness, and your relationships start to feel more reciprocal. You feel a sense of relief knowing you can tell your friends, partner, and clients something they might not want to hear, and they accept you regardless.
“Put your own oxygen mask on first,” stops being a phrase that makes you want to roll your eyes. You prioritize yourself because you know in your bones that when you take care of yourself, you have more energy and compassion for others. You have more time because you’re setting boundaries. You go to a yoga class and finish the book you’ve been reading forever- without guilt- and it restores you.
You fall in love with your job again. You’re less stressed and less frustrated, and it shows in your work. You’re more grounded, compassionate, and a better listener. Imposter syndrome fades away, and you’re more confident when you speak to colleagues and patients. Life still gets hectic, but you’re the calm in the storm because you’re clear on who you are and your values.
My goal is to help you make this vision a reality.
How it works.
We start by getting to know each other and discussing your goals for therapy. You might be coming in with something specific that we work on each week, like letting go of imposter syndrome or feeling less resentful in your marriage. Or you might not have one clear goal in mind or feel so overwhelmed you don’t know where to start. Whatever brings you to therapy is welcome.
My approach draws on IFS and attachment theory. Working together, we might explore the parts of you that:
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give and give, even when you’re depleted
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criticize and doubt you, calling you “lazy” or “bad” at your job
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feel unseen and resentful of others, even the people you love
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are stuck in situations or relationships that don’t feel good, too scared to walk away
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are frustrated with the system, and not sure what to do about it
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carry trauma, whether it’s your own or from patients or clients
With me, nothing you’re bringing is too heavy or too much. Together, we make room for it all.
I won’t shame you for your anger, your fear, or the ways you numb out. I believe they are here for a good reason. We can figure out that reason together. This is a space where you explore the parts of you that are struggling, and reconnect to the parts you’ve buried or hidden away.
As a therapist, the main tool in your work is you and your ability to be a secure attachment figure for your clients. But what happens when you’re not secure? Maybe you’re:
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struggling to keep it together because something in your world is falling apart
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noticing blocks or countertransference with clients, and want to explore them in a setting that goes beyond supervision or consultation
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overthinking after sessions, wondering what you could have said or done differently
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weighed down by your clients’ emotions or trauma
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interested in incorporating IFS into your work or ready to deepen your understanding of the model by experiencing it as a client
I understand the particular type of anxiety that can come up when you’re a mental health provider sitting in therapy, wondering, “Does my therapist think I’m a bad therapist?” If that’s you, I see you, and I get it. I’m not here to judge you or your clinical work. I respect your vulnerability and desire to heal.
THERAPY FOR THERAPISTS
I have spent years working with medical professionals, including physicians, nurses, physical therapists, veterinarians, midwives, dentists, physician assistants, and optometrists. If you have a career in the medical field, you likely work long hours in a high stress environment, and that takes a toll on your wellbeing. You may be:
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grieving the patients you couldn’t help
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advocating for yourself and your patients, and feeling hopeless because it isn’t changing the system
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feeling flat or numb, and not experiencing pleasure like you used to
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consumed by work, with no hobbies or identity outside of your career
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unable to stop thinking about a malpractice lawsuit or a significant medical error
Recognizing that you’re struggling and getting help doesn’t mean you’re failing. I understand the stigma about mental health issues that physicians and other medical professionals face, and I take your confidentiality and professional reputation seriously. If you have concerns about this, I’m happy to share the steps I take to protect clients like you.